Shyness

Shyness is feeling agitated around people- stranger, it’s either the opposite sex, or even your peers. Your extreme self-consciousness affects you in many ways. You get embarrassed, and you think yourself not able to speak. You find it hard to speak up and voice your opinions or preferences. A shy person is a good listener. When shyness restricts you and inhibits you from realizing your potential and harmfully affects your feelings, relationships and work, it’s time to do something on it. First, understand the problem. Shyness does not describe who you are; it describes your behavior, your reactions to situations. You think others are making negative judgments of you, that they don’t like you. Others are better or more normal than you. You expect things to turn out badly. Things will go wrong if you try to relate to other people, and they often do- because you act on your beliefs. How shyness affects your life? If you are not speaking up, not paying attention to others that may leave the impression that you’re stuck-up, unfriendly, bored, uncaring, or ignorant. You let opportunities pass you by. You accept things or situations you really don’t want- all because you’re afraid to speak up and express your opinion. You may lose out on the joys of meeting people and making new friends. But others lose out too, because they don't get the chance to know the real you. How to overcome shyness? First, you should stop worrying on what others say about you. “He who criticizes others lacks sense”. Try to think in a positive way. No one is perfect. All of us have strengths and weaknesses. Learn how to judge others in a fair way. “Love is outgoing; if you have love you think the best of people, not the worst. Some might misjudge you but if you think positive you will feel that was their problem not yours. “. You should learn to be sociable- say hi and try to start a conversation. Dress where you feel comfortable with it, if you feel good and at your best with what you are wearing then you’ll have confidence in yourself and focus on the conversation. Stand straight, be at ease. Look nice and smile, have a friendly eye contact and nod or literally acknowledge what other person says.