why women cheat

i just found this on someone's note lol just wanna share it ^^




Nevertheless, no reason is good enough reason to lie and be dishonest. After all, Karma can be a bitch.

No matter what it is, cheating is definitely not a healthy way to solve problems in relationships. Before any problem becomes unresolvable, things should be straightened up.





Here are the top ten reasons why men cheat:



1. Because they had the option.

The old saying “men are only as faithful as their options” can sometimes ring true. Men don’t get offered sex as often as women so when the opportunity does arise, it can be very difficult for them to turn it down.



2. It boosts their ego.

Sometimes men no longer feel like they are attractive to the opposite sex and when a woman shows some interest, not only does a man react, he may allow her to stroke his ego and more. There is nothing like the thrill of the chase to men on the hunt. When they are finally rewarded for their efforts, their egos swell even larger.



3. You grow apart.

Maybe the two of you didn’t have as much in common as you thought. He’s met a woman who has more in common with him who loves football or plays golf. He may check out if he is compatible with her under the sheets also.



4. You argue a lot.

Men will sometimes cheat to get away from an overly critical or argumentative partner. Who wants to be around someone who is constantly on them about something.



5. They have fallen out of love.

Sometimes men become so comfortable in a relationship, they don’t know how to get out. They may be staying in the relationship because of children or financial reasons. However, they feel like they are missing out on love and may seek it out elsewhere. In their mind, this is as close to win-win as they can get.



6. Your sex life stinks.

If a man has a disinterested partner or isn’t getting enough sex to fulfill him, there is a good chance he will have an affair. Just because you have a husband or boyfriend, does not mean you can stop trying. It takes a little bit of effort to keep your sex life from becoming boring and non-existent. Some men cheat because they want to try new sexual things that their current partner will not try.



7. To get revenge.

A man will sometimes cheat if he finds out his partner was cheating on him. How else is he supposed to heal those hurt feelings of his but through good old-fashioned sex?



8. It’s new, different and exciting.

Some men get tired of having steak for dinner every night and want to try a hamburger. The same goes for sex with a woman. That’s why men don’t necessarily always cheat with women who are more attractive than their partners.



9. To see if they can get away with it.

If a man has the attitude of “what she doesn’t know, won’t hurt her,” he may cheat to see if he is sneaky and smart enough to get away with it. However, with all the advancement in surveillance spy ware, getting caught has now become easier than ever.



10. Because you have allowed it in the past.

If you have forgiven a cheating man a couple of times, they are more than likely going to cheat again because they already know if they plead enough, you will forgive them.

Reasons why men cheat can be more complex than the above list or even be a combination of a few different reasons.



11. It's Challenging And Exciting

f you consider the women you sleep with "sexual trophies," chances are you have already cheated at least once in your life. Some men simply cannot leave behind the thrill of the hunt, the chase and the conquest. For other men, the excitement is in the variety, like changing ice cream flavors for one day after years of sticking to just one.





WHY WOMEN CHEAT

10. The relationship isn't THAT serious.

In the beginning, you may find yourself in a brand new relationship, you're just dating but you really like the guy but you aren't quite sure if you want to be exclusive. Men, you better not take too long to figure it out! While you're out there dating or talking to a couple of other girls to make sure she's the right one for you, she could be doing the same thing! Unfortunately for you, women get hit on almost everyday, it could just be for sex or whatever the circumstance, but we get attention out there no matter what we look like-there is always someone who wants to get in our pants. Fortunately, we have been turning men down since the beginning of time. When you think you're not quite ready to settle down as you go from one woman to the next, you are really wasting time on the girls you don't really like instead of investing time in the one you really want. If you don't seal the deal while she's really into you, you just might blow it, and she knows it!



9. They are bored in the relationship.

When women get bored with their man they may seek comfort in the arms of a stranger or an old flame. They get bored when the sparks no longer fly, if they're stuck in a routine of boredom, if their man isn't paying attention to them or they aren't having fun together. Women need romance, dancing, dinners, spontaneous getaways, anything that will keep them guessing and make them feel special. Women tend to place their man on a throne and crown you the "Man of the house" and "King of the castle." All we really want i the same in return. The longer you leave gaps in between the romance, some other guy may be filling in for you. When the man she loves is spending too much time and attention on himself or his other interests (Golf, video games, workaholic, etc.), it is a complete turn-off for women. We want to be the center of his world, the Queen at his side; translation: we want some attention and to feel important, when we aren't, we know that someone else will place us on their pedestal if you're too busy. You've seen the chick flicks guys, how much more do we need to spell it out for you?!



8. They aren't getting what they want out of the relationship.

Most women want a place to call home, especially a house, they want a marriage or some type of commitment, and eventually, they want to start a family. If they have been in a long term relationship and nothing seems to be materializing from it, they will consider straying if they haven't already. Women need to know their place in your life, we want to know that you are in it to give them that happily ever after, and if you don't step it up, then proceed with caution. It isn't about sex, it's about being with a man that is ready to GROW UP and take the relationship to the next level. No matter what we say, we need the ring, the piece of paper, the contract, the whole sha-bang! We don't want to be your baby mama, but if that's what it takes to get you to commit, some women will take that route and make you miserable for the rest of your life, all because... you didn't give her want she wants or needs in the relationship. If men need food & sex, women need security and commitment. Remember guys: there will always be someone out there that will promise her the world and give it to her, so if you aren't trying to be THAT guy... she will go bye-bye.



7. When he has too much baggage.

Psycho ex girlfriends, baby mama drama, ex-wives with too much control, a meddling mother, over-protective siblings, bratty kids, and friends that don't know when to go home, will take their toll on a woman. There is nothing more unattractive then a man that has too much baggage. Women will begin to take a look at their options out there no matter how nice or great of a guy her man is. A man can spoil her rotten, but if your family always has something to say and you don't stick up for her, you're in BIG trouble! Your ex-gf, baby mama, or ex-wife should not cause any problems in your relationship. What's worse is when you can't control your own kids, that is a major turn off because she wants you to be the MAN, not a doormat! When your friends come over too much or stay too long, that make you look like a high school boy instead of the man she knows you can be. You shouldn't be fighting about other people, there are only 2 people in your relationship, so schedule time with your friends or family and let her do her own thing. Whatever you do, don't keep repeating the same thing over and over when she tells you she doesn't like something (or someone), take care of the problem like a man, don't drag it on. We all have baggage, but when you really love someone, you will make the simple effort to make changes for the benefit of the relationship: its all about compromise.



6. They won't leave something for nothing.

When you're just not getting along and you seem to be fighting a lot, fellas beware! Most women won't have a clean break because we need to "get under someone new, to get over someone old." That's right, this is something even our mothers and grandmothers know now days! That is why we always have a "rebound guy," AKA: the guy after the serious long-term relationship, before the string of one night stands and mini-relationships that will eventually lead to your new and improved replacement. Don't be mistaken, women are a lot more slick then we get credit for, and you won't even see it coming. By the time you're ready to "work things out" she may be on to bigger and better things, so if you know you love her and want to be with her, fix the problems before you get replaced. We think about our feelings and emotions a lot before we stray, by the time we act on it, we have made up our minds and moved on. All you need to know is that the plan was well thought out before it was executed.



5. Ok, sometimes it is about the SEX.

If a girl is having trouble climaxing, no matter how great of a guy you are, regardless if you have a mortgage, lease or kids together, she just might stray, depending on how bad it is and how much she really loves you. If you can't deliver the kind of lovin' she needs, you're headed for trouble, because there is an easy remedy to cure that little problem. You will find that more and more women will have a Cha-cha, def: a guy she can call on whenever, wherever, to take care of her sexual appetite. Unlike a booty call, a Cha-cha knows you're in a relationship, he might be in one too, but he is readily awaiting her number appearing on the Caller ID of his cell phone. He is the guy that will give her presents AND orgasms, but he never calls her, she calls him. Men have their "old reliables" that they call when they are having a dry spell, but the Cha-cha is a special man that takes care of her wants and needs in different ways then a booty call and old reliable. He is there when you aren't acting right, he will console her after a fight, even if she doesn't mention a word about it, and he is there if she hasn't lined him up already. Remember: for the ladies, sex is physical AND emotional, be creative!



4. When things start to go sour.

Let's face it, women need a lot of attention, we have feelings and emotions that run deep. If you forget her birthday, an anniversary, or any other special day or if you skimp out on Valentine's Day, Mother's Day, Christmas, New Years Eve or WHATEVER, she will feel unappreciated and that is the danger zone! If you are so caught up and busy doing whatever it is that you do, even if you are working a lot to pay bills and what not, at the very least... you better remember the days that count! The rule of thumb here is that you need to show your appreciation to her, show her how special she is and how much she means to you. Say thank you in little ways, because every woman will tell you, "it's the little things that count." The reason the little things count is because they all add up to one big thing: whether or not you appreciate her enough. If she baby's you when you're sick, packs your lunch, cooks dinner every night, or makes you feel special or gets you little thoughtful gifts here and there, she is doing her best to make you feel special, loved and appreciated. We will never say it out loud, but we're expecting you to do it for us too. Picking up some flowers "just because" is a great way to show her, taking her out for a romantic dinner will do the trick, getting her a card to say you're sorry, or giving her a little something because you love her, always work wonders. Men on very competitive, there is always going to be some guy out there that will do what you won't do and charm those panties right off.



3. If the relationship gets abusive.

Don't think that you could ever completely control a woman. If you try to use scare tactics, hit her, beat her up, or threaten her, she can and will stray at some point, it is just a matter of when. If you are verbally or emotionally abusive, we may be the victim but every woman can be pushed to her breaking point until enough is enough. There are way more nice guys out there and if you didn't know this already, we have been trained to await our night in shining armor, thanks to Disney. You can beat us to the ground and we will pick ourselves up. Even though we love you and you hurt us, there is always another guy waiting to save that damsel in distress. We all know women talk, we talk about everyone and everything, so if she's with friends or at work spilling her guts out, someone will be more then willing to set her up with a great guy that they know and most guys would love to be the hero.



2. When she doesn't come first in your life.

If you put other people before her, like your mother, family, friends, job, etc. she will eventually stray. A woman has to feel like she is your number one priority sinceshe is your partner in life, she needs to be treated as such, and more. When you're spending more time or money on your Mom, or something other then her, you will have problems. If you spend too much time at work and not enough time on her, there will be a big fight around the corner. I know it sounds selfish, but that is just the way we are. Think about it, when a man has a little girl, he is protective, he spoils her, and she is his princess forever. When Dad is around, she is on her best behavior because she knows that if she plays her cards right, she can get whatever she wants from him. There are Daddy's girls, and Mama's boys-there is a reason to that madness. You see, mothers make it difficult for any woman to measure up because most guys want a girl like his mom, and women want a strong, providing, generous man, like her father. There can only be one queen in your life, if she isn't your number one, she will belong to someone else in no time. It not just your mom, its also habits and addictions, like drugs or video games; she will find a more mature man that will place her on the #1 spot.



1. Whatever you can do, we can do it better.

If you have cheated on us and we take you back, you better be on your toes every minute of every day! Don't think you are in the clear just because she forgave you, you better watch how she interacts with your brother, your cousins, your best friends, co-workers, and anyone with a penis. She will go for the jugular fellas, and I am not playing! If you break her heart and she gives you a second chance, she is probably going to start plotting the biggest, heart-breaking performance of her life. Just when you think it's all water under the bridge, you will find your heart ripped out, stomped on and spit on, under that bridge. Every woman handles it differently, she will either go for someone close to you, but she will be with someone else behind your back, whether you find out about it or not is up to her. She may take you back, all the while knowing that she has slept with someone else, because in the back of her mind, "what you don't know won't hurt." Trust me fellas, she will smile in your face and act like everything is normal, but behind that grin lies the remnants of a broken heart plotting away vengeance. You see, it is so much easier for a woman to cheat, all we have to do is say "yes". Men love the thrill of the chase, they are natural predators, and once they have a piece, they are done because the thrill of the chase is over. If they get caught it's because they weren't doing it right, they got sloppy, or weren't paying attention. Women on the other hand, are very detail oriented, if she gets caught, she probably wanted to. Women will sleep with a guy knowing he has a significant other, we are competitive in that way, too. If the girl you cheated on knew about your woman, she was in it for the competition, you really mean nothing to her. Women always think they are better then other women, even sisters are rivals, but you are the dummy that gets caught in the middle. A woman doesn't really want the guy that cheats on his chick with her because he will probably cheat on her too. Your chick will even the score or she will not have anything to do with you. It's all a game, and most of the time... it's the men that play the fools...

having a healthy relationship

Being in a relationship is not easy. It’s not just a game that you play. You have to be ready for the consequences and commitment. Sometimes you feel like you’re in a cloud 9 and sometimes you’re feeling like you’re in hell. We know that in life we have some ups and downs. And only you would help you, not anyone else. And only you can make yourself happy no one else is responsible for that. Because some have a partner who makes them happy but still they are not. And they blame their partner because they are not happy. So ask yourself why you aren’t happy? Maybe you are not contented? It’s just not for you? You’re not yet ready? In a relationship you need to give and take. And you should work on it together. To have a good and healthy relationship you should make and keep clear agreements. Discuss every issue calmly and talk in a nice way. Respect is important when you are talking about it. You have to learn respect, sometimes it can take a while to achieve this, but if they love you it will come. If you agree on your plans do it. If you respect yourself and your partner you should keep the agreements between you as well as creating a sense of trust and safety. Communication is very important especially when you’re in a long distance relationship. Without communication, there is no relationship. You can choose to be right or to have a successful relationship. Because some people insist that they are right even they are not, don’t let your anger or stupidity eat you. Do not talk if your mind is not clear or full of anger. When you feel hurt, do not say "it's your fault / you never loved me" or "let's break up”. You might well regret it one day. Tell him or her you feel hurt, and ask for clarification first, if you don't work together and just blame, it can only do harm. Some say conditions like if you really love me you would… and the other one would say yeah you’re right, you won. This won’t create a healthy relationship because you don’t agree with each other. You don’t have some mutual agreement. Keeping what you feel inside and not telling your partner is not a good thing. It’s just only you not the two of you. . A true relationship will consist of both partners who need to equally contribute. It but it will work out in both of your favor and in your relationship. . Be truthful to yourself and your partner if you want true love. Many people choose to lie to protect their partner’s feeling not to be hurt. But when they found out the truth this would hurt them more than to say the truth. . A white lie is still a lie. For any sort of relationship, to work you need to have trust. Trust is as essential as respect. If you want your partner to trust you, trust him or her first. Letting your partner play guessing games may lead to misunderstanding and frustration. Lies create disconnection between you and your relationship. If you made a mistake you should forgive one another and say sorry. You have to let go of it and focusing more at the present. If you learn from the past do not do it again. . It's the only way to prevent you from more disappointment, anger or resentment. . Respect your partner, when your partner tells you to leave them alone; do give him or her time and space to calm down and think about it first. But do not leave any unsolved problem for too long. Try to be as clear as you can about any expectations - including acceptable and unacceptable behavior and attitudes, especially attitudes towards money. This is one of the causes of argument. Each one of you should be responsible. . If you've been snippy to your partner, own up to it and say sorry. And you would make you partner feel good if you apologize. Apology does not mean you are bad, it only means you care. Learn to appreciate yourself and your partner. In the midst of an argument, it can be difficult to find something to appreciate. You need to calm down first and think about those good deeds that your partner done to you, you need to be able to do it during a stressful conversation. And after you fixed that tell your beloved that you love him or her, and that you don't want to argue but to talk and make it better. Admit your mistakes and say sorry. Ask your partner to give you some time to think of the wrong and right things that you and he/she did. Ask your partner to do the same thing and talk to them when you are both ready. Ask your partner to give you time to talk and explain to them why you were angry, the wrong things you did, the things they did that you did not like and what you would like them to change. Ask your partner to do the same thing and give them a fair chance to talk and explain also. This will make your relationship stronger and help strengthen the communication between you and your partner. After that you should spend some quality time together. Find a way no matter how busy you are because this would be one of your precious times to treasure forever. Avoid any activity that could cause your partner to experience doubt, suspicion or distrust - build your credibility and earn trust and respect by always communicating truthfully and proactively, and always keep your words. In a tedious relationship, it is hard to communicate with your partner and share humorous feelings. Laughter can make a great relationship. Develop a realistic expectation about sex and intimacy. This also implies finding new and creative ways to pleasing each other intimately. And it’s very important to support each other. If your partner has to do something for school or work support them. And this would make them feel loved and happy. It will make them realize that they also have a friend in you, not just a romantic interest. Be supportive. Be their number one fan. In a relationship, answer questions honestly, but with tact and grace. Don’t ask about questions about their past relationships. Avoid flirting with others, especially previous partners. This is the way to demonstrate loyalty and devotion to your significant other. When your partner asks you about your ex tell your partner that isn’t important right now you are so much happier to be with your present partner and that’s what matters the most. If you see something Unhealthy in your relationship try and work out why this is and see if you can work towards resolving it together. Do not place blame and then leave them to it, work it through together. There is no perfect person. So barring an abusive relationship it may be best to stick to a relationship, work things out and make it better.

visual kei

We all love music. But we have different taste on choosing the right genre of music that will suit your personality. Well I want to introduce you a different kind of genre in the music industry that hits a lot of people who likes fashion and music, it is called Visual Kei.

Visual Kei refers to a movement among Japanese rock (jrock) musicians and is characterized by the use of colorful and elegant costumes, make-up and hairstyles. Visual Kei has influenced Harajuku style fashion. The "kei" in Visual Kei is japanese for style of type, meaning "visual style music" The music ranges from eighties goth rock, to heavy metal to punk .The term visual kei was created with one of X Japan's slogans "Psychedelic violence crime of visual shock ."You could find Visual Kei cosplayers (dressed as their favorite musicians) and those in the subculture known as Gothic Lolita based on Lolita fashion. Often fans of such bands also will dress up for concerts, meet ups, and other events where they will see other people who enjoy Visual Kei.

If you like watching anime well you probably heard of some visual kei bands from the opening or closing of the anime you’re watching. Visual kei is really eye catching because of their colorful costume, make-up and hairstyles. There is a band called girugamesh who caught my eye and the reason why I started to listen to visual kei. I was browsing some band pictures and suddenly I noticed this band that has a cool make up and crazy hairstyle. So I search some info about this band then I tried to listen on some of their song. When I was listening to one of their song called “owari to mirai” I was like “wow! This band knows how to rock. ” Even I can’t understand the lyrics I’m loving the beat. Then I tried to search more about them and other bands. Then I saw some has a very beautiful and colorful costumes, make-up and hairstyles. This makes me wants to search more info about it, like what kind of style is it then I found out it’s like harajuku fashion and Lolita fashion.

Some members of the visual kei bands look like a real girl but they are not. They are a cross dresser. Because of their cool style a lot of people who likes visual kei or cosplay want to do this style on themselves as well. Some are teasing and dyeing their hair, making or buying costumes and watching tutorials or studying how to put some make-up on their face. And this is so much fun for those who like visual kei. They’re not just enjoying what they hear but also on what they see .