Being in a relationship is not easy. It’s not just a game that you play. You have to be ready for the consequences and commitment. Sometimes you feel like you’re in a cloud 9 and sometimes you’re feeling like you’re in hell. We know that in life we have some ups and downs. And only you would help you, not anyone else. And only you can make yourself happy no one else is responsible for that. Because some have a partner who makes them happy but still they are not. And they blame their partner because they are not happy. So ask yourself why you aren’t happy? Maybe you are not contented? It’s just not for you? You’re not yet ready? In a relationship you need to give and take. And you should work on it together. To have a good and healthy relationship you should make and keep clear agreements. Discuss every issue calmly and talk in a nice way. Respect is important when you are talking about it. You have to learn respect, sometimes it can take a while to achieve this, but if they love you it will come. If you agree on your plans do it. If you respect yourself and your partner you should keep the agreements between you as well as creating a sense of trust and safety. Communication is very important especially when you’re in a long distance relationship. Without communication, there is no relationship. You can choose to be right or to have a successful relationship. Because some people insist that they are right even they are not, don’t let your anger or stupidity eat you. Do not talk if your mind is not clear or full of anger. When you feel hurt, do not say "it's your fault / you never loved me" or "let's break up”. You might well regret it one day. Tell him or her you feel hurt, and ask for clarification first, if you don't work together and just blame, it can only do harm. Some say conditions like if you really love me you would… and the other one would say yeah you’re right, you won. This won’t create a healthy relationship because you don’t agree with each other. You don’t have some mutual agreement. Keeping what you feel inside and not telling your partner is not a good thing. It’s just only you not the two of you. . A true relationship will consist of both partners who need to equally contribute. It but it will work out in both of your favor and in your relationship. . Be truthful to yourself and your partner if you want true love. Many people choose to lie to protect their partner’s feeling not to be hurt. But when they found out the truth this would hurt them more than to say the truth. . A white lie is still a lie. For any sort of relationship, to work you need to have trust. Trust is as essential as respect. If you want your partner to trust you, trust him or her first. Letting your partner play guessing games may lead to misunderstanding and frustration. Lies create disconnection between you and your relationship. If you made a mistake you should forgive one another and say sorry. You have to let go of it and focusing more at the present. If you learn from the past do not do it again. . It's the only way to prevent you from more disappointment, anger or resentment. . Respect your partner, when your partner tells you to leave them alone; do give him or her time and space to calm down and think about it first. But do not leave any unsolved problem for too long. Try to be as clear as you can about any expectations - including acceptable and unacceptable behavior and attitudes, especially attitudes towards money. This is one of the causes of argument. Each one of you should be responsible. . If you've been snippy to your partner, own up to it and say sorry. And you would make you partner feel good if you apologize. Apology does not mean you are bad, it only means you care. Learn to appreciate yourself and your partner. In the midst of an argument, it can be difficult to find something to appreciate. You need to calm down first and think about those good deeds that your partner done to you, you need to be able to do it during a stressful conversation. And after you fixed that tell your beloved that you love him or her, and that you don't want to argue but to talk and make it better. Admit your mistakes and say sorry. Ask your partner to give you some time to think of the wrong and right things that you and he/she did. Ask your partner to do the same thing and talk to them when you are both ready. Ask your partner to give you time to talk and explain to them why you were angry, the wrong things you did, the things they did that you did not like and what you would like them to change. Ask your partner to do the same thing and give them a fair chance to talk and explain also. This will make your relationship stronger and help strengthen the communication between you and your partner. After that you should spend some quality time together. Find a way no matter how busy you are because this would be one of your precious times to treasure forever. Avoid any activity that could cause your partner to experience doubt, suspicion or distrust - build your credibility and earn trust and respect by always communicating truthfully and proactively, and always keep your words. In a tedious relationship, it is hard to communicate with your partner and share humorous feelings. Laughter can make a great relationship. Develop a realistic expectation about sex and intimacy. This also implies finding new and creative ways to pleasing each other intimately. And it’s very important to support each other. If your partner has to do something for school or work support them. And this would make them feel loved and happy. It will make them realize that they also have a friend in you, not just a romantic interest. Be supportive. Be their number one fan. In a relationship, answer questions honestly, but with tact and grace. Don’t ask about questions about their past relationships. Avoid flirting with others, especially previous partners. This is the way to demonstrate loyalty and devotion to your significant other. When your partner asks you about your ex tell your partner that isn’t important right now you are so much happier to be with your present partner and that’s what matters the most. If you see something Unhealthy in your relationship try and work out why this is and see if you can work towards resolving it together. Do not place blame and then leave them to it, work it through together. There is no perfect person. So barring an abusive relationship it may be best to stick to a relationship, work things out and make it better.
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